Monday, February 14, 2011


Love comes in many flavors. Today is a celebration of love, mostly embodied by the symbols of roses and chocolate and glittery things to drape around body appendages. And then there's sexual love, which I wrote about in LOTUS. But the purest love, the best love, endures. I offer this story today in honor of my parents, who stuck through everything together for 48 years. Peace, Linda


Another Thursday night.

She usually looked forward to sharing the next hour with her husband, but tonight she felt weary. Leaning on the table, she pushed away her half-eaten Stouffer’s lasagna and pulled herself up. Wavering over her walker, she adjusted the dial on the portable oxygen tank to highest flow.

The walk across the kitchen seemed interminable. She paused at the counter and gathered the supplies. The cans rattled against the metal basket. At the living room entrance, she rested again. The carpet slowed her down; it always did. She adjusted her nasal cannula. After a few breaths, she shambled the last steps to the Lazy Boy.

Her husband’s white hair always shocked her; once, it had been jet black. But she loved the feel of it now; spun silver soft as the Lamb’s Ear edging the front walk. He slumped in the chair, washrag pressed against the side of his face where the tumor had eaten into his jaw bone. A good man, an obliging patient, his tee shirt was already rolled up to his chest.

“Dinner time.” She tried to sound chipper.

He grunted, nodded his head, but didn’t look at her.

The tubing unwound in her hands, unreeling like a garden hose. She leaned over him, feeling precarious without her walker to steady her. Her hand trembled against the warm skin of his stomach, shrunken so that the skin folded in canyons. This time she managed to slip the tubing end into the port on the first try. It wasn’t always that easy. Tears of relief welled in her eyes.

She wheezed and gripped the side of the recliner to catch her breath. She shook one can, then the next, struggling with the pop-tops. Arthritis crippled the finger that had once quilted and knitted, that had wrung weeds from the earth and turned patients in their hospital beds. She despised her weakness.

He grunted again.

“Oh. What’s for dinner tonight?” A new part of the ritual she kept forgetting. “Tonight we have meatloaf with lots of catsup, mashed potatoes dripping with butter, and, of course, peas. The LeSuer ones you love. For dessert, Boston cream pie. Your favorite.”

He grunted again, but managed a weak smile.

She smiled back. She hung the bag from the IV pole and slowly poured in one can. Liquid the consistency and color of gravy slowly edged down the clear tube. She sighed as she sank to the couch and waited for gravity to pull sustenance into his frail body. He watched, too, his eyes anxious on the bag.

She wondered whether the artificial nutrition had any flavor, whether he could somehow taste it through his blood. Whether it satisfied. To her, the liquid smelled the way chalk tasted. She thought of the meals they had shared the past 49 years: the duck confit and profiteroles in Paris, the smorgasboard of salmon and cheeses enjoyed in Sweden on their second honeymoon, their daughters and grandchildren gathered around the Thanksgiving table. The glasses of wine, the morning coffee. Thursday night pizza and television. All those years.

“Honey, do you remember when we—“

He grunted. “Shush.”

She bit her lip, averting her gaze to the floor. Her mouth flooded with a metallic wetness.

He looked past her, to the wide-screen. Buff young bodies dove into crystalline water in an exotic country she would never visit. Jeff Probst’s voice filled the room. “Last week, on Survivor…”. She looked again at the mud-colored nourishment flowing into the hole in her husband’s stomach and wondered how many more Thursdays they still had left. She patted his knee.

“I love you.”

He grunted, eyes still glued to the tube. But he released the remote, circled her trembling fingers, and squeezed them tight.

(Originally published as Another Thursday Night in The SHINE JOURNAL, May 2010).


  1. Oh Linda (I say, wiping away tears), this is a wonderful story. Tender and lovely, so real. So touching. I love the comparison of his hair to the Lamb's Ear (a beautiful plant - I love touching its softness). And the paragraph where you list some of their favourite meals, outstanding. Happy Valentine's Day, you! oxoxoxo

  2. I'm at my day job reading this and I just about started crying. Beatiful and painful.

  3. This is the kind of love we all hope for. Achingly beautiful.

  4. I had a hard time finishing this because I couldn't see through my tears. What a touching story...this is so real.

  5. I would say Happy belated Valentines Day, but every Valentines Day should be another Thursday night. Peace to you, Linda.

  6. Thank you all for reading. This IS real, of sorts, the sort of Thursday my mother shared with my father in the last months of his life. He was on a feeding tube, they loved Survivor, a silly TV show that bound them and me and my children. Mom and Dad shared a rare kind of love, one built on a love and friendship and experiences that spanned almost 60 years (they would be married 50 years this year). Thank you for reading. Of ALL the stories I have ever written this is the one I am most proud of. Peace...