Friday, January 01, 2016

Looking Forward...

I went to bed last night (well before the witching hour), plotting in my head the wise words I’d share today, the launch of a new year. I love the first day of a new year—it’s akin to shedding old clothes and wearing new, shiny togs. I was going to say something about a new year providing a new chance for hope, which led me to ponder what it was I hoped for. And of course, I hoped for calm and peace for my family, health and resilience for my children. But these are ‘things’ I can’t change, through persuasion or brute force; these are things I’m graced with, through luck or God or both.

I’ve said before I’m not one for resolutions, and I’m not, especially as I realize what I want most I can’t guarantee. But I can help shape peace and calm and health, and I can do this by living my best possible life. Two years ago, through necessity, I started to live my best possible life. Those of you who don’t know me but who might have met me at a conference or a grocery store would likely think to yourselves, “Jeesh, that woman, such a mess!” And I was a mess, but I was the best I could be at that time. Back then, there were days when getting myself on the metro to work was a triumph. Fear has a funny way of paralyzing me (maybe you, too?) but at some point something snapped in me and I got pissed off and decided to rub fear’s nose in my happiness. Which was feigned, but another funny thing is when you fake your joy and peace, it becomes a state of being.

As 2016 marches down its preordained road (and we get an extra day of joy this year), my game plan is to continue being the best possible me every second of this year. That means checking myself when I find impatience and frustration growing in my gut, approaching life as a listener rather than a talker, and establishing boundaries that provide the ability to be the best I can be. It also means forgiving myself when I screw up (and forgiving others when they do), because I (and others) will screw up—it’s part of our messy humanity. It means seeking daily balance in my physical, social, emotional, and spiritual needs, and keeping each well fed. Being the best possible me means having goals (not resolutions) and striving toward them. I want to tumble into my sheets each night feeling I accomplished much, have nothing to feel badly about, and knowing I did the best I could—and that I can do better.

So no expectations for dramatic change this year; merely paddling down the same creek in hopes the water and my work carve the earth ever deeper. What are your goals for this year? What paths are you hoping to meander down? 

Happy New Year, and peace...


8 comments:

  1. Thanks for a perfect new year's post. It's just what I needed to hear. You are a wise and powerful woman. Meeting you two years ago, during your worst time, was one of the best things that ever happened to me. What a gift to travel this road with you. For some reason, this comment is attributed to Sarah Jacobs (my daughter), but it's me--Barbara.

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    1. No Sarah J here--just you! Happy New Year dear friend! Every now and then you meet someone with whom you feel complete simpatico. My meeting you was that. I hope 2016 brings you and your family health and happiness, and blesses you with a proliferation of words. Peace...

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  2. No resolutions here either. An intention and a wish. I want to put my needs (and wants) towards the front of the queue. Which is going to require me to learn to value myself, and perhaps like myself. A big wish. To be worked on incrementally.

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    1. EC, your needs and wants should always be first--it is your life, and you deserve the best. It took me a long time to figure this out but I've become quite good at this assertiveness thing--I'm happy to support you! Happy New Year! Peace...

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  3. I hope this next year is easier on you than the last, Linda. I've received some greater mental clarity in the last month, and if it persists, my only goal is to use it. God willing, for more exercise and writing.

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    1. John, I hope your clarity continues. Exercise helps me write. I do wish writing helped motivate me to do more exercise! Peace...

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  4. This post really resonated with me. I hope the new year brings you the peace you deserve, and all manner of good things.

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    1. So good to hear from you, Laurita! Thank you for traveling this way, and I hope all manner of good things happen to you this year. Peace...

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